So I think the shit has hit the fan… very slowly and very softly.
I thought it was very empathetic of my fiance to suggest that he would take on the chores, jobs and ball ache tasks I’ve been doing since the bear was born.
Why? You may ask… what has changed?
Well I’m no longer on Maternity Leave, I’m back at work, I’m a teacher and I genuinely don’t care what anyone says, it’s a fucking hard job and takes up a lot of your mental and physical strength PLUS I don’t have access to my bear 24/7 which is extremely fucking hard and rather upsetting – let me tell you.
Really upset, reduced to tears because I felt like my own son of 8 months hated me… and I think for a week he did… a little bit… or had a major strop due to the fact I’d upped and left him.
He loves me again now though and all is right with the world… although he is much too attached to his Grandad for my liking and will make friends with ANYONE… the kid has no sense of loyalty.
Anyway, where was I… no more Maternity Leave… so housework and child looking-after now becomes 50/50. I drew up a chore table, very specific (you may scoff – but my fiance is that lazy and useless he would seriously quite happily do fuck all, live in squalor and forget that we had a child together).
And he’s not done a damn thing on it. I have struggled for two weeks returning to work, dealing with the hate from an 8 month old and continuing to do all the housework.
And now he’s doing everything and he’s stuck in a Catch 22, either he admits it’s fucking hard and shares the load from now on OR he stays stubborn and says it’s piss easy and then great! He can do it forever. Sweet.
Why do I think the shit has hit the fan then? Because something is up… I feel He. Has. A. Plan. And I’m falling in to some sort of trap – his entire sttitude is upbeat and he won’t let me do anything.
I shall wait and see… I’m hoping he’s that stupid and stubborn he will glide through the week stating how easy it has been and will therefore be doing it forever, rather than He. Has. A. Plan.
Update to follow. Fingers crossed for stupid and stubborn.